When Did You Know You Were Ready for Another Baby?

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My husband and I have been contemplating having another baby.  Our son is going to be one next month.  It took 5 years to be blessed with him, so for me I’d love to start trying for another one, no later then him being two years old.  I would love a big family, and my fear is that it might take another 5 years, but who knows, it might be right away.

My husband is opposite on wanting another.  I come from a family of 5, and my mom raised foster kids, so there was always kids and babies around.  Maybe that’s why I want a big family.  I can’t imagine my son with no siblings to hang out with.  I understand he has his older brother, but with him not being here as often as we would like, I want Grayson to have someone to play with.  The bond I have between my siblings and I is what I want my son to experience as well.  And to be able to have nieces and nephews.  I couldn’t see my life without nieces and nephews.  My husband is an only child.  So, it makes me wonder if that’s why he has that mind set, like I have mine.

But enough about us,  I want to do what’s best for my baby boy.  I know there is different opinions from everyone and just depends on what you want in a family.  But, how do I know I won’t be stealing moments from my son?  I want him to have mom rock him to sleep, but I know with another it might be, mom needs to do something for the baby.  I don’t know if these feelings are normal when thinking about growing your family.  So, my question to you guys is, how you knew you were ready for another baby.  I think my first time mommy guilt is what’s making me over think.  There’s a part of me that thinks, “NO, don’t do it YET.  Give Grayson more time to have just mommy.”  But, then a part of me thinks, “Just do it.  Why wait?”

Of course, we still have a lot of things to consider and think about.  But, what did you consider to go from one kid to two kids?  I know it’s going to be a huge transition from one to two.  So, what were some of the challenges you had with one more child to look after?

At the end of the day, I know it’s all in God’s hands and if it is meant to be, he will open doors or close them.  And, whether it’s in God’s plan that we only have one, then I am more than thankful for that, considering I never thought I’d have one.

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15 thoughts on “When Did You Know You Were Ready for Another Baby?

  1. Jess

    I don’t have any children, so I can’t really give you any advice from my own experience, but I think you should do whatever your heart is telling you. If it is important to you that Grayson has siblings, then that’s what you do! I know it is probably hard to imagine dividing your attention between two children, but you will adjust and soon you wouldn’t be able to imagine your life without that second child 🙂 All I can say, the more the merrier! The more love for everyone in your family to have 🙂 Those are just my thoughts, but like I said, I don’t have kids yet!

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  2. Shann Eva

    It took me a long time to convince my husband to have another. We started trying when my oldest was around 1 and a half. It took about 5 months…then, surprise…it was twins! There’s definitely no right answer or special time. I think leaving it in God’s hands is the best idea too.

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Then surprise… it was twins! Haha Love it! You truly are super mom, without a doubt! And I agree leaving it in God’s hands like I did Grayson then when we least expect it and God knows we are ready then I’m sure he will make it happen! 100% agree! Thanks girl!!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  3. Lori

    Great question! We are in the process of adopting our second child and, the question is, will I ever be ready? We kept asking ourselves this question when contemplating starting the adoption process again, especially knowing that we had no idea how long it would take. Our conclusion was that we would trust God to bring our child when he knew we were ready; so we went for it! Also, our daughter is extremely social so I would love for her to have a playmate close to her age!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Ahhhh love this!! So awesome that you are adopting. I look up to those that adopt. I want to do that as well later down the road. There’s so many littles that need someone to love them and I would love to be that one! 🙂 And I agree it is all on God’s time like Grayson was. We never ever expected so I’m sure that’s how God will make it work and I’m ok with that!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  4. Emily

    I don’t have any children myself, but I do think it is so great for kids to have siblings! It teaches them so much and those relationships are so precious! Trust His timing and believe in your abilities, and I wish you the best for whatever you do decide!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      I agree siblings just have amazing bonds. And I want to see that with ones of my own! You are exactly right that it will teach them so much. Thank you for pointing that! Putting it in God’s hands for sure!
      Take care and God Bless!
      Valarie

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  5. Beth

    The transition from one baby to more is tough on everyone, but I think the love and joy that everyone gains from another person to love, makes it well worth it. Some of my favorite moments as a parent are listening to my children interact with each other. If you have another child, your relationship with your son will change, but his world will grow as well. I think it is a lot of responsibility for a child to be an only child when the parents get older. However, my sister only has one daughter, and she wouldn’t change that for the world. I think being an only child and having a sibling both have their perks and challenges.

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      You are absolutely right that each one does have its perks and challenges. And like my husband says he can’t miss what he hasn’t had and don’t know how it would be and vise versa for me. We both have our wants and opinions on it. So it will definitely go in God’s hands and only he knows what he has in store for us! Thank you for the advice.
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  6. Rachel

    Listen to your gut to help you decide what you want to do! I was an only child for a good chunk of my life and was perfectly content, but I’m also happy to have my sisters now!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      I 100% agree! I need to listen to my gut and put it in God’s hands only he knows what he has in store for us!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  7. Alison

    I was so broody from when my eldest was around 6 months old, the only reason we waited a bit longer was to move house. We started our family hoping we would have 3 babies and so I’m glad we have 2 now, they adore each other. I can’t actually imagine having that third child though!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Yeah that’s kind of what we have to do is wait to move houses. Financially we could do it but house wise not big enough. So yes we will have to consider everything and not just do it cause that’s what I want and so on. Oh really I always hear that as well that 2 is perfect for people and maybe that’s how it will be! That’s meeting in the middle for both of us!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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