My husband and I have been contemplating having another baby. Our son is going to be one next month. It took 5 years to be blessed with him, so for me I’d love to start trying for another one, no later then him being two years old. I would love a big family, and my fear is that it might take another 5 years, but who knows, it might be right away.
My husband is opposite on wanting another. I come from a family of 5, and my mom raised foster kids, so there was always kids and babies around. Maybe that’s why I want a big family. I can’t imagine my son with no siblings to hang out with. I understand he has his older brother, but with him not being here as often as we would like, I want Grayson to have someone to play with. The bond I have between my siblings and I is what I want my son to experience as well. And to be able to have nieces and nephews. I couldn’t see my life without nieces and nephews. My husband is an only child. So, it makes me wonder if that’s why he has that mind set, like I have mine.
But enough about us, I want to do what’s best for my baby boy. I know there is different opinions from everyone and just depends on what you want in a family. But, how do I know I won’t be stealing moments from my son? I want him to have mom rock him to sleep, but I know with another it might be, mom needs to do something for the baby. I don’t know if these feelings are normal when thinking about growing your family. So, my question to you guys is, how you knew you were ready for another baby. I think my first time mommy guilt is what’s making me over think. There’s a part of me that thinks, “NO, don’t do it YET. Give Grayson more time to have just mommy.” But, then a part of me thinks, “Just do it. Why wait?”
Of course, we still have a lot of things to consider and think about. But, what did you consider to go from one kid to two kids? I know it’s going to be a huge transition from one to two. So, what were some of the challenges you had with one more child to look after?
At the end of the day, I know it’s all in God’s hands and if it is meant to be, he will open doors or close them. And, whether it’s in God’s plan that we only have one, then I am more than thankful for that, considering I never thought I’d have one.