Is a stay at home mom a job?

Let’s start with, ummm, in my book, YES, being a stay at home mom is a job. A full time job that you get paid with hugs, slobbery kisses, and love. Which, to me, is the best way to get paid.

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But let’s all be real, it’s not all hugs, kisses, and fun all day long. Babies have their moments and meltdowns, Mama’s have their moments and meltdowns. But, my baby is alive because I protect him. He is happy because of my time I spend with him. He is loving because I show him love and love on him all day long. I constantly have dirty dishes but it’s because I feed him. There’s a mess in the living room because we play. So most of what he is, what he has learned, etc., is from my 24/7 job, being a stay at home mom!

If I weren’t home, our house would be a complete disaster. We, SAHM (Stay at home moms), are constantly doing dishes, therefore, we are a dishwasher. We are constantly doing laundry, cleaning toilets/tubs, and picking up what baby gets into, therefore, we are a maid. We have to cook meals because they and we all have to eat, therefore, we are cooks. We have to constantly be watching them so they don’t get into what they’re not suppose to or get hurt, therefore, we are a babysitter. We have to drive a million and one places, therefore, we are a chauffeur. If the baby/kids get hurt, we’re a nurse trying to make their boo boo’s all better. That’s just a few jobs that we would be getting paid to do.

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So, you just meet someone and they ask what you do? You chime in happily, “I’m a stay at home mom”. They reply, “Lucky” or “Must be nice”, and yes, don’t get me wrong, it is very nice to be able to raise my child and see every milestone. Yes, I am lucky!  But they also think it is a continuous vacation, full of fort making, candy, and cupcakes. Yes, not going to lie, some days it is, but on most days it’s total chaos filled with a sick, screaming baby, the house a mess, and mom hasn’t even had a chance to shower or do her hair. (aka: the messy bun)

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So, just like if you have to schedule a meeting at work, us SAHM’s have to schedule what needs done. Yes, that even means we have to schedule or plan for a shower or it will not get done.

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Your boss may be a tall, medium sized guy wearing a suit & tie, well ours is a tiny, chubby cheeked baby wearing a diaper.

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Both jobs can be very demanding, but we don’t get sick days or call ins. It’s a 24/7, 365 day kind of job. Don’t get me wrong either, I’m not trying to say ours is harder or worse then any job out there. Not at all. Just letting it be known, that being a stay at home mom is definitely a job. Don’t think by me saying its a job, that I feel it’s an obligation to care for my own child, not at all. I’m blessed and honored to be home raising my son the way I want him raised. I get to be home with him everyday and see every milestone, good and bad.

So while being a stay at home mom may be a little more demanding than the typical 9 to 5 job, it’s more rewarding. I wouldn’t change it for anything, and I am forever grateful for my husband, who has to work a 9 to 5 job to support us and allow me to be a stay at home mom.

Enough with the no it’s not a job, yes it’s still a job.

Comment below your thoughts on the subject? Would love to know and hear different sides if any!

36 thoughts on “Is a stay at home mom a job?

  1. Laura

    Great post! While I’m not a mom yet I have always dreamed of being a stay at home mom and not because I thought it was easy but because when I make the decision to start a family I want to be the one who raises our child rather than work in a job to pay for someone else to have our child during the day. I know that isn’t something everyone has the luxury of doing and I am still not even sure if I will have the luxury of staying at home but that has been my dream and goal and reason for why I work so hard now.
    xo, Laura
    Have Need Want

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Exactly, exactly! So true though.. I know so many woman who would love to be home with their babies and like you said don’t have the luxury of doing that. But that’s ok too, they are doing what’s best for their life! I hope when its your turn to enter this crazy, yet most amazing motherhood that you will get that luxury as you’ve always dreamed of. It will be the best and exciting experience of your life!! Thanks for giving your insights, really enjoyed it!!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  2. Victoria

    It is definitely a full time job. For me, when my toddler naps I have to work for my part time job. I never really get a break. Constantly cleaning and trying to keep her entertained. I agree, it is the most rewarding job and I love my bosses (Avi and my work boss). I am very blessed to work from home.

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Glad you agree! That’s another that is great, mamas that have the luxury of still working but working from home. Definitely a blessing even though it may still get crazy for you. Due to you probably only get stuff done when she naps. Super mama!! Thanks for your sharing!!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Thank you so much girl! Totally agree. Thanks so much for taking the time to check it out and even leave your opinion. Absolutely appreciate it!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  3. Autumn

    Darn right it’s a full time job! I remember when I was pregnant a gentleman said to me, “you’re going from an 8 hour day job to a 24 hour job!” and boy was he right! But I wouldn’t change my job for anything in the world – it’s the biggest blessing to be able to stay at home with my Darling!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      O my gosh i totally love that, going from 8 hours to 24 hours! Love it!! So darn true!! and yes im right with you on I would not change it for anything. So glad you feel the same and get the luxury of staying home with your baby!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  4. The Southern Stylista

    I’m so glad someone has spoken up and said this! I just got married, but I plan to be a SAHM when my husband and I decide to have kids. I think it’s one of the most important jobs in the world 🙂

    xoxo, SS

    The Southern Stylista

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Thank you so much girl! It with out a doubt is the most important job in the world. I’m truly blessed to be doing it and hopefully for many more years to come with more kids!! 🙂 And I hope when its your husband and your turn to have kids that you will get this luxury job as well. You won’t regret it! I’ll always be here if you need advice or help. or at least my version of advice!
      Take care girl and God bless!
      Valarie

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  5. Latonya

    Being a mom is definitely a job. It is the only job where your work truly matters and if you fail there’s a mountain of consequences. Keep enjoying your little one! They grow so fast which means more work!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Man is that the truth! If you fail there’s a mountain of consequences, love how you put that. So much truth in that, I agree 100%. Yes I am enjoying and soaking in every minute of him cause he is growing way to fast. I don’t know where the time is going.
      Take care girl and God bless!
      Valarie

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  6. Emily

    I have so much respect for SAHMs! Especially those that still continue to contribute to the workforce (like blogging!) or volunteer regularly! It’s hard work and much appreciated by your child! (They just don’t know to tell you that!)

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Thank you so much for such kindness. I agree 100%, volunteering is a wonderful thing and will only better our town and world that our kid lives in. Just by the look on my sons face and how happy he is shows me how much he appreciates me. 🙂
      Take care girl and God bless!
      Valarie

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  7. Karen

    lOVE lOVE lOVE THIS POST. I stayed home for 5 years while my kids were growing up and it was the hardest job I ever did. I didn’t have the privilege of a husband who helped me when he got home from work (which would explain why he is now my ex) so I pretty much had to do the whole thing on my own. You don’t have days off, you can’t really take a sick day, there is constantly something to do not to mention the teaching that is involved as they grow. My house was always clean, my laundry done, meals prepared on time all this while entertaining two young kids along with cutting of grass and shoveling of snow. I give Big Kudos to all Stay At Home Moms. Is it a job – you bet your sweet bippy it is. A Damn Hard One but one that is very much satisfying when you see the type of people they turned out to be.

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Thank you so much! I’m so happy you loved it. Day made! So sorry you didn’t have a husband who helped you, I couldn’t imagine. I thank God my husband helps and is willing to. Sometimes I have to remind him hey your kind of slacking I could use a little extra help. So kudos to you for doing all that and still having house clean etc. Way to be mama! I bet your kids are forever grateful now that their older. If not remind them. LOL It’s very true though, there is constantly something that needs done. Only time you’re resting is when you’re sleeping! Thank you so much for your opinion, absolutely love it!
      Take care girl and God bless!
      Valarie

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  8. Kylie

    I would totally agree! Some days being a stay at home mom is way harder than when I was working outside the home. The rewards are DEFINITELY better staying at home! I wouldn’t trade it for the world! I was told that I would regret my decision to quit….well that person was WRONG! Best. Job. Ever!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      I 100% agree with that. Some days being a stay at home mom is way harder than when working outside the home. I owned a salon and even taking care of everything there and our house and employees was rough but this tops that. Which I’m not complaining one bit, I waited forever for this. I agree I wouldn’t trade it for the world either! And same here no regrets one bit. I’d have to say that person is wrong as well. lol
      Take care girl and God bless!
      Valarie

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  9. Cherish

    Interesting. I was raised by a SAHM and I definitely think it benefitted me. I mean, here I am, 24 and in school to become a doctor! I wouldn’t have done it without her! However, she always had a contempt towards being “dependent upon a man”, which is why she wanted me to get an education – she never wanted me to rely on a man for food or a place to live, never wanted me to feel under the power of someone else.
    As I get to the halfway point in my schooling, I realize I have to choose a specialty in medicine based on not only my interests, but my lifestyle as well. I started out thinking I wanted to become a Surgeon, but I realized it would leave little opportunity to start my family, let alone to help raise one. Even so, I’ve had to ask my boyfriend to consider being the primary caregiver and have even discussed with other female future-doctors about how many in the field have nannies. Do I really want to trust someone else to raise my child? Not necessarily, but I went into the field I did to give them the best opportunities without worry (vs myself who NEEDED a scholarship just to get through university because my parents didn’t have the funds to pay for it).
    I think the ability to be present for your children is WHY working mothers deem you lucky, not because they imagine you just watching TV all day!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      I totally see your point of view as well. And I absolutely agree with you and understand and support that you want to give your kids what your parents couldn’t due to funds.That’s awesome you want to and feel you have to do that for them. But some mama’s don’t have to do that and can still have that opportunity for their kids. It all depends on the situation presented to the family. Not one is better then the other. Just wanting others to view SAHM as a job and not just vacation time. Thank you so much for your input. I definitely see your point of view.
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  10. Trish

    Being a stay at home mom is absolutely a job! I don’t have kids, but see how much time and effort and love my friends with children put into their daily life.

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Hey Trish! I am so glad you agree and see our point of view. It definitely is a different but amazing job!
      Take care girl and God bless!
      Valarie

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  11. Wendy Tomlinson

    I absolutely love the top image. I have had many, many days where I’ve felt like this. And there have definitely been days when I’ve thought what are you doing, life would be so much easier if I went out to work, hired a cleaner and came home to a nice calm house. The reality is I wouldn’t have changed a thing with regards to being a stay at home mum and my son is now 14.

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Doesn’t it speak so much truth in just one picture. haha Absolutely love it! And yes i agree with you. It may be easier doing that but we didn’t and it’s the best thing we could’ve ever done for our kids and family! It’s very rewarding in so many ways. Even when it seems hard and like the day will not end haha
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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  12. Joy

    My mom did this for 7 children and it was the most important job she ever had! I plan to do the same and am grateful that my husband encourages it. I like what one commenter said about a man telling her “you’re going from an 8 hour day job to a 24 hour one!” SO TRUE! Haha.. but it is hard work that pays off. Well written!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Thank you so much Joy! O wow your mom is a saint, 7 children and raised them all full time. Way to go Mom! My mom was exactly the same she had 5 of her own and then 4 foster kids and a daycare. Our moms are some champs! lol and yes yes that’s what I thought when she wrote that 8 hour day job to 24 hour, it’s definitely the truth! That man knew what he was talking about.
      Take care girl and God bless!!
      Valarie

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  13. Sarah Ross-Koves

    It certainly is a full time (with overtime) job. I remember reading once how much life insurance a SAHM needs to have to replace everything she does. I was home on maternity leave with each of my girls, but I was so ready to go back to work. Great post.

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Yes totally agree Sarah. Full time with overtime, ain’t that the truth! O man I could only imagine with the life insurance, that’s insane. Now you made me want to look that up lol Haha it gets hard sometimes and no adult socializing lol some mamas need that and a job, nothing wrong with that at all. Supporting for your family is the best over all in any situation. All mamas are champs! Thanks for taking the time to read and comment.
      Take care girl and God bless!
      Valarie

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Hey girl! I agree 100% so much work. I’m so glad you agree! And yes never take it for granted, there’s so many working mama’s that wish they could be doing the same! Enjoy your sweet baby and thank God everyday for blessing you with that precious gift!
      Take care girl and God bless!
      Valarie

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  14. Jess

    Love this! I definitely feel like a SAHM is a full time job- not any more, or any less of a mom than a working mom, just deserving of being called a full time job. Thank you for adding your link to the Christian Mom Blog Directory!

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    1. mommyatlast Post author

      I am so glad you loved it Jess! And I agree no more or no less then a working mom cause its hard both ways that’s for sure. But full time job, YES! Lol and absolutely I thought that was a great idea to have that. Thank you guys for taking the time to check my blog out. Can’t wait to read everyone else’s!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

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