First and foremost my mom always made parenting look so easy and effortless. I knew I wanted to be as great as a mother as she was, but feared I would never measure up.
As you all know, I wanted to be a mother more than anything in the world. So, with out a doubt, I was beyond excited when we found out I was pregnant, but also, deep down, scared to death. I had no idea what to expect. The moment I found out, I read every pregnancy website I came across. I also read some books, googled, and YouTube’d videos. Please tell me I’m not the only one that watched birthing videos? Some of them scared me, but it’s such a beautiful, amazing thing.
First off my main worry was…
1.Giving Birth- Am I going to be strong enough to do this? Will I be a big huge screaming and crying baby through it all? How long will my labor be?
2. Pooping while giving Birth- Please tell me I’m not the only one who stressed over this. Haha! But seriously, I heard stories and I was like, “That will be so embarrassing.” But honestly, during the moment, if it would’ve happened I wouldn’t have cared less, with all the adrenaline and excitement and I’m sure they’ve seen way worse. It’s their job. Just go with it, means your pushing right. Thankfully still didn’t happen to me. Haha!
3. Will my vagina ever be the same?- Come on, let’s all be real with each other. Most of us think it but don’t speak of it. This is the kind of stuff I googled. No joke! It was something I truly feared and wanted to know so I’m letting you all know, TMI or not! Lucky you! Maybe it’s a first time mom worry, or maybe it’s not. Maybe I’ll worry about it with the next or maybe I won’t even care. Let’s just say couldn’t be better, only affected my bladder a little. I’ve had my moments of sneezing and a little leakage. Ain’t gonna lie and no shame either!
4. Will I know how to change a diaper?- I truly was worried that I wouldn’t do it right, or wipe the baby wrong, or have baby pee on me. Well, there’s no right or wrong way to change a diaper, as long as it’s on, you’re good. The sticky parts go from back to front, but if you happen to do it opposite it still holds good. Lol! Not me, my mom did it! Haha! As for wiping the right way, wipe until their clean and not to hard. AND getting peed on is inevitable, it’s going to happen once or twice or a hundred times whether you rush putting the diaper on or not. Especially boys, and they have good aim! Just saying.
5. What if I don’t know how to hold him right? Will I drop him?– When you first hold him, as a mother it seems like it just comes to you and is natural. Just hold him close to your body, make sure head is secure and be gentle and just cuddle your sweet little bebe!
6. What if I can’t hear him cry when I’m asleep because I’m so tired? – Hahahahaha! Trust me you’ll hear or they’ll just get louder for you to hear. LOL!
7. Breastfeeding– Will my baby latch right a way? Will it hurt me? Will my baby get enough? How is my milk supply going to be? Yes I breast fed for just a little bit, yes it was hard, and yes it hurt, but knowing you are feeding your baby is so worth it. I hear it gets so much better. Unfortunately, due to health issues, we had to turn to bottle feeding, but as long as your baby is eating and getting satisfied and gaining weight that’s all that matters.
8. How will I function on very little sleep?- This was a worry because this girl loves her sleep, and if I don’t get it I can be a little on the crabby side. But honestly, you just need to set up a new schedule and until then just nap when baby does, even if the house is a mess, SLEEP! Because you need to be at your best to be the best mama you can be, and that’s what matters at the time. Once you get into the groove of things and have enough coffee, you’re golden on little to no sleep.
9 What if my baby falls and hurts themselves?- It’s bound to happen. Especially when they’re learning to crawl, stand up on stuff, and walk. It’s going to be a lot worse when their running around being lil dare devils. As long as they’re not bleeding non stop or too terribly hurt you just need to comfort them.
Last but definitely not least. My biggest fear of all!!
10. Will I be a Good Mom?- As long as I love unconditionally and care for my baby in the best way I know, feed and give him what he needs at the time, then yes, you are a great mom. Be there when they need you the most. Love them even when they are being naughty. Laugh, giggle, and play with them. Show them what love is and you will be a great mom!
Accidents may happen, meltdowns may happen, and you may need pots of coffee to get through a day, but as long as you love your baby unconditionally and provide them with their needs and wants, that’s all you need for this crazy thing called motherhood. Fears are normal. It means you want the best for you child and you just want to make sure of that. Remember you are not alone, all us mama’s are right there with you.
What were some of your fears and worries of pregnancy and becoming a mother?