Fears of Pregnancy and Becoming a Mother

First and foremost my mom always made parenting look so easy and effortless.  I knew I wanted to be as great as a mother as she was, but feared I would never measure up.

As you all know, I wanted to be a mother more than anything in the world.  So, with out a doubt, I was beyond excited when we found out I was pregnant, but also, deep down, scared to death.  I had no idea what to expect.  The moment I found out, I read every pregnancy website I came across.  I also read some books, googled, and YouTube’d videos.  Please tell me I’m not the only one that watched birthing videos?  Some of them scared me, but it’s such a beautiful, amazing thing.

First off my main worry was…

1.Giving Birth- Am I going to be strong enough to do this?  Will I be a big huge screaming and crying baby through it all?  How long will my labor be?

women in labor

2. Pooping while giving Birth- Please tell me I’m not the only one who stressed over this.  Haha!  But seriously, I heard stories and I was like, “That will be so embarrassing.”  But honestly, during the moment, if it would’ve happened I wouldn’t have cared less, with all the adrenaline and excitement and I’m sure they’ve seen way worse.  It’s their job.  Just go with it, means your pushing right.  Thankfully still didn’t happen to me.  Haha!

pooping

3. Will my vagina ever be the same?- Come on, let’s all be real with each other.  Most of us think it but don’t speak of it.  This is the kind of stuff I googled.  No joke!  It was something I truly feared and wanted to know so I’m letting you all know, TMI or not!  Lucky you!  Maybe it’s a first time mom worry, or maybe it’s not.  Maybe I’ll worry about it with the next or maybe I won’t even care.  Let’s just say couldn’t be better, only affected my bladder a little.  I’ve had my moments of sneezing and a little leakage.  Ain’t gonna lie and no shame either!

4. Will I know how to change a diaper?- I truly was worried that I wouldn’t do it right, or wipe the baby wrong, or have baby pee on me.  Well, there’s no right or wrong way to change a diaper, as long as it’s on, you’re good.  The sticky parts go from back to front, but if you happen to do it opposite it still holds good.  Lol!  Not me, my mom did it!  Haha!  As for wiping the right way, wipe until their clean and not to hard.  AND getting peed on is inevitable, it’s going to happen once or twice or a hundred times whether you rush putting the diaper on or not.  Especially boys, and they have good aim!  Just saying.

changing diaper

5. What if I don’t know how to hold him right? Will I drop him?– When you first hold him, as a mother it seems like it just comes to you and is natural.  Just hold him close to your body, make sure head is secure and be gentle and just cuddle your sweet little bebe!

holding baby wrong

6. What if I can’t hear him cry when I’m asleep because I’m so tired? – Hahahahaha!  Trust me you’ll hear or they’ll just get louder for you to hear.  LOL!

baby-crying

7. Breastfeeding Will my baby latch right a way?  Will it hurt me?  Will my baby get enough?  How is my milk supply going to be?  Yes I breast fed for just a little bit, yes it was hard, and yes it hurt, but knowing you are feeding your baby is so worth it.  I hear it gets so much better.  Unfortunately, due to health issues, we had to turn to bottle feeding, but as long as your baby is eating and getting satisfied and gaining weight that’s all that matters.

breastfeeding 1

8. How will I function on very little sleep?- This was a worry because this girl loves her sleep, and if I don’t get it I can be a little on the crabby side.  But honestly, you just need to set up a new schedule and until then just nap when baby does, even if the house is a mess, SLEEP!  Because you need to be at your best to be the best mama you can be, and that’s what matters at the time.  Once you get into the groove of things and have enough coffee, you’re golden on little to no sleep.

no sleep

9 What if my baby falls and hurts themselves?- It’s bound to happen.  Especially when they’re learning to crawl, stand up on stuff, and walk.  It’s going to be a lot worse when their running around being lil dare devils.  As long as they’re not bleeding non stop or too terribly hurt you just need to comfort them.

Falling-Baby-

Last but definitely not least. My biggest fear of all!!

10. Will I be a Good Mom?- As long as I love unconditionally and care for my baby in the best way I know, feed and give him what he needs at the time, then yes, you are a great mom.  Be there when they need you the most.  Love them even when they are being naughty.  Laugh, giggle, and play with them.  Show them what love is and you will be a great mom!

goodmom

Accidents may happen, meltdowns may happen, and you may need pots of coffee to get through a day, but as long as you love your baby unconditionally and provide them with their needs and wants, that’s all you need for this crazy thing called motherhood.  Fears are normal.  It means you want the best for you child and you just want to make sure of that.  Remember you are not alone, all us mama’s are right there with you.

What were some of your fears and worries of pregnancy and becoming a mother? 

20 thoughts on “Fears of Pregnancy and Becoming a Mother

    1. mommyatlast Post author

      So glad you enjoyed it girl! Congrats on your pregnancy and for being your first! How exciting! Your mind can go crazy when your pregnant but nothing to worry about honestly just go with it and everything will come naturally. No need to stress. I know its easier said then done cause I was the same, worrying. Honestly some of the stuff I read or what not helped but its more so on what you feel as a mama and every baby is different so soothing techniques for one baby may be different or so on. Just do what your mom self feels is right! Mommas always know best!! 🙂
      Take care and God bless
      Valarie

      Reply
  1. Kelsie

    I love this so much! I’ve battled a lot of these same concerns and worries as a non-mama for now. Feels good to see them answered and so openly. Thanks for giving me hope 🙂

    Reply
    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Awesome!! So happy you loved it. I figured why not be real and honest in case there is someone truly stressing about each of these and not getting straight answers. Well here ya go, open and honestly and 100% fears that I experienced! 🙂 So glad I gave you hope, that’s exactly what I want! 🙂
      Take care and God bless
      Valarie

      Reply
  2. Emily @ Chirpings from a Little Sparrow

    I love this post! I’m not a mommy yet, but I hope to be in the future, and I can relate to a lot of these fears! Especially number 6…I definitely worry that I won’t wake up to my baby’s crying. I’ve slept through my alarm more times than I can count! I know a baby is different, but still I do think about that sometimes. But I think my biggest worry is postpartum depression. I’m really prone to depression as it is, so the likelihood of that happening is very high. And that would definitely contribute to my worry about sleeping right through the crying. It’s a lot easier for that to happen when you are just feeling that bad. But still, I know God has called me to be a mother, and I’ll have to trust Him through these fears!

    Reply
    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Thank you so much Emily! Absolutely I think we all can relate to these fears, just don’t want to talk about it. And honestly is like motherly instincts cause it’s like when you have your baby that you just sense stuff. You can wake up with any little sound and/or any little movement. I truly feared that cause I love my sleep and I’m a deep sleeper so I did fear that but it just comes naturally once you have your baby. It’s like your 5 senses are that much more aware now, Lol! No joke! And as for postpartum depression, I wouldn’t know to much about it to give advice all I can say is you’re totally right God has a plan for you and he will help you through if it’s what he has for you. Also if and when it happens don’t deny it and make sure you get help and don’t be ashamed it happens to more women then not!
      Take care and God bless
      Valarie

      Reply
  3. Kayla Nelson

    Oh my goodness, this made me laugh out loud and choked me a up a little. These fears are so real and I think almost every mom wonders and fears these things!!! Such a sweet reminder that you offer to all of us. <3

    Reply
    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Yay!!! You truly made my day reading how much you enjoyed it!! And yes 100% real fears that I myself experienced. I agree almost every mom wonders and fears these but won’t talk about them. Ain’t no shame in honesty!! 🙂
      Take care and God bless
      Valarie

      Reply
  4. Natalie

    My biggest fear with my daughter was the whole sleep thing–I cease to function without regular sleep patterns, so I was a zombie with PPD after I had her. Stubborn me decided to pump every 3 hours ’round the clock for 6 months since I couldn’t breastfeed, which really only stressed me out more. Looking back, I wish I’d just switched to formula when I found out that we were having so many nursing issues: I think I would’ve enjoyed her babyhood 100 times more.

    Now that we’re thinking about #2, my biggest fears are finding a place in the family for another little one and the safety of the pregnancy (since I had a devastating 2nd trimester miscarriage a few months back). I never questioned my ability to have a healthy pregnancy with my daughter, but this next time around will be seriously stressful because of our experiences.

    Reply
  5. Megan

    Yes, these are definitely some fears I’ve had (you didn’t actually answer #3 btw). I’m also worried about eating the wrong thing and somehow hurting the baby. And I’m worried how having a kid will affect our marriage.

    Reply
    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Hey girl! I sure did answer #3 I said couldn’t be better, just affected my bladder lol and yes I was the same way but luckily my husband cooked healthy and good for baby and I. And all i really craved was fruits most my pregnancy! I as well worried about how it would affect my marriage and honestly I think it affected it in a good way. We come together like we never did before hand. Sometimes I catch myself ignoring my husband and just all about the baby so that’s one thing still working on. not purposely ignoring him just giving all my attention to Grayson and very little to the hubby!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

      Reply
  6. Beth

    Being a parent is not for the faint of heart! It gets easier in some ways as they grow up, and also unbelievably harder, but I’ve found it to be worth it.

    Reply
    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Exactly!! Everything you experience and go through is all worth it for these sweet lil gifts from God!! 🙂
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

      Reply
  7. Melissa

    Oh my gosh! Yes the poop fear is so real!!! Haha I was so stressed about it. Like weirdly worried. Especially the fact I, my husband and my mother all have a medical background. Hahaha. But I survived. I will never know because they said I didn’t but I have a sneaking suspicion that they aren’t being 100% haha. Whatever. I’ll live in my bliss. But also not care next time. I literally was in labor unmedicated for 23 hours and THAT was my fear. Ha! I was also worried about breastfeeding. Like if I would hate it or be able to do it or how that would go. Happy I didn’t have any issues. I nursed until 14 months. Pumped like a years worth of back up too. No issue. I won’t ever be one of those moms running around posting pictures like I BREASTFEED!!!!! but that’s just my personality. I also don’t run around taking pictures of my own food either. Often 😉 Way to go mama! Great post! Oh and the vajay… I was like- what just happened?!?!?! But it’s pretty amazing`how resilient we are! On that note! adieu 🙂

    Reply
  8. Lindsay

    My biggest fears were definitely the fear of pain and the unknown. Your post made me smile and laugh and brought me back to that time 15 months ago I was getting ready to have my baby.

    Reply
    1. mommyatlast Post author

      Girl I was too. But I honestly swear by this, Red Raspberry leaf tea. I swear that helper everything in my pregnancy leading up to labor and then delivery and as well as recovery! No joke!
      Take care and God bless!
      Valarie

      Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *